Questions people bring

Why did he block me?

No reader can tell you why he blocked you; only he knows that. A reading can start with what happened just before it, what kind of block it was, and what you need now: closure, an apology you may never get, or permission to stop checking.

A block ends the conversation without explaining itself. A reader cannot hand you his reasons, but can read the last exchange with you and help you choose what to do with the silence.

What a reader can tell you

People block for a short list of reasons: to stop themselves reaching out, to stop seeing your posts, to end an argument they felt they were losing, to keep a new partner calm, or because they felt crowded. A reader cannot tell you which one is his, but they can read the last few messages back to you in order and notice what changed. A block after a fight reads differently from one that comes out of a quiet week, and both read differently from one that follows five unanswered messages in a night.

Not every block is the same move. Blocked on one app but not another, muted, removed from followers, blocked and then unblocked a week later: each keeps a different distance, and the articles below set out the differences. A block on everything at once tends to be the most deliberate. A block on one app can be about what someone does not want to see there, including your posts. An unblock with no message restores access; it is not an invitation, and it is worth waiting to see whether words follow.

The one thing most readers will talk you out of is going around the block with a new number, a second account or a friend's phone. Whatever his reason, the block is the one clear thing he did say, and going around it is not the way to the conversation you want; it can turn an ending into something you regret. A block is also an ending with no goodbye, so it is fair to grieve it. The useful work is deciding what closure looks like without his help, and a reader can do that work with you.

Ask it in your own words

Tap one and it is typed into Seraphine's chat for you. Change anything before you send.

Read first